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Late-identified ADHDers get the best plot twist.

(no, you shouldn't have known sooner)

After 39 years of playing neurotypical...

Starting over as an adult ADHDer feels like a lot.

Do we dare look at that as freedom?

Because here's what "starting over" also means that:

💜 Boundaries become a virtue
💜 You're allowed to like yourself
💜 You learn to see rest as recovery
💜 You get to tell your inner critic off
💜 You can stop apologizing for existing
💜 Your energy patterns make sense now
💜 Panic productivity is not the only option
💜 The rejection sensitivity finally gets a name

Yes, there's grief.

And so there is relief.

Every productivity tip that didn't stick?
→ Becomes data about what doesn't work.

That quirky hobby graveyard?
→ Becomes proof of your creativity.

Every time the mask slips?
→ Becomes a step to more authentic ways.

You're exactly where awareness begins.

And starting aware beats starting early.

I'm not the only ADHDer scared to be seen trying.

(it broke the employee but won't crush the co-founder)

I spent 2 days on a feature that got scrapped.

Completely forgot about a partner call.

Couldn't find the docs I needed.

This is what building with ADHD looks like.

I spent years in corporate worrying that I'll get exposed.

For making a mistake, or just thinking in a different way.

So I learned to hide.

Building in public makes it hard to hide.

Every pivot looks like chaos.

Every missed promise is public.

Every "behind the scenes" overshares.

But here's what I'm learning:

The real risk is in building Viberie like I don't have ADHD.

Because we're ADHDers building for ADHDers.

✋ Raise your hand if this is you.

P.S. What's the ADHD thing you're most scared will show up in your work?

Got diagnosed with ADHD but feel like a fraud?

The irony → that doubt is classic ADHD.

When ADHD was mentioned during assessment,
1st thing I did after was look up "ADHD vs stressed".

Imposter syndrome in late-identified ADHDers is brutal.

Why that ruthless doubt?

🪫Others don't believe you're struggling.

🪫You were trained to dismiss your needs.

🪫The success came at a cost nobody saw.

🪫You kept hearing "try harder" for decades.

🪫You've achieved a lot and seem successful.

🪫You compare your worst to everyone's best.

🪫Good days = evidence that bad days = choice.

Here's what I'm inviting you to do:

➡️Go back to when you didn't know it was ADHD
➡️List things you used to beat yourself up about
➡️Now count up how many are textbook ADHD

ADHD is real.

Your lived experience proves it.

Comment 'ME' if you've googled 'am I really ADHD' ⬇️

P.S. What's the most obvious ADHD trait in you that you doubted?

Employer: We encourage out-of-the-box thinking

ADHDers: Wait, there was a box?

Employer: Please follow the established process

October is ADHD awareness month.

Ever been in a similar convo, yes or no ⬇️

P.S. I don't think any of my previous employers have taken part in ADHD awareness month.
You?

To ADHDers every deadline means panic.

(and it's not about imposter syndrome)

I lived this in corporate for years.

The fear was always there.

It was not the deadline.

Or the actual work.

But exposure.

That I didn't manage my time well and waited for panic to kick in before I can even start.

Then I realised that ADHD needs urgency to unlock action.

🧠 No urgency = no dopamine = no action

Not unreliable.

Just ADHD.

Things shifted a bit for me when I started naming this:
"My brain needs urgency to function."

I now lean on these supports:

💜 Fake deadlines (earlier, real consequences though)
💜 External accountability (tell another human)
💜 Body doubling (virtual sessions is fine)

The panic didn't vanish.

But the fear of being exposed did.

Let's not take deadline panic as a character flaw.

P.S. What's the fear underneath YOUR deadline panic?

Late-identified ADHD? You were too good to spot.

(that's not a compliment at all)

After years of trying to not be "difficult", I get it.

We learned early:

Be quiet

Don't complain

Make it easy for everyone else

That wasn't "mature for your age".

That was masking.

The "good girl" checklist:

→ Never asked for help (that's needy)
→ Never took up space (that's selfish)
→ Never showed struggle (that's messy)

The result?

You disappeared from view.

For ADHDers socialized to please, "good" meant invisible.

And invisible doesn't get diagnosed.

One way to start unmasking safely:

💜 Name one need today without justifying it.

Being "good" was safe but it wasn't you.

It's time to introduce yourself again.

ADHDers, I burnt out on a high-profile project.

Again 😿 (late-identified neurokin get me)

This was the available support:

Healthcare: "See you in 3 years"

Gov scheme: "We’ll call in 30 weeks"

Coaching: "We’ve got you for £150/hour"

So I qualified as an ADHD coach and

I left my career to solve ADHD support 🤩

🎉 Today I'm officially Co-Founder at Viberie 🎉

The virtual ADHD coaching system that's 💯 you.

🫣No pre-defined courses to suffer through.
🫣No generic tips when you’re trying to cope.
🫣No strategies that don’t work for our neurotype.

It will be personal flows, built entirely on:

💜 What you want to achieve
💜 What matters to you NOW
💜 What works for your goals

So here I am together with my husband Yavor I

Building the support we needed but never had.

Your ADHD "came" late.

Your support doesn't have to.

Drop a 🍀 for good luck pleeeease

If you’re an adult ADHDer, check it out.

ADHDers, your mask just slipped.

(and no, it wasn’t that obvious)

Do you relate to this exact panic:

You're mid-conversation.

The brain disconnects.

Words evaporate.

Face frozen.

💜 races.

"This is it, I’m found."

"They know I'm a fraud."

I’ve been there lots, it used to undo me.

But here's what's actually happening:

🧠 Masking burns 70% more cognitive resources
🧠 That brain hit capacity, it’s not incompetence
🧠 The mask slip means you're an ADHDer

Fear makes us feel like:

→ Everyone can see through me
→ My cover is blown forever
→ They'll think less of me

In reality?

Most people are too busy in their own heads.
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Simple lines can help recover quickly.

Here’s what to try next time the mask slips:

🤫 "I lost my train of thought"
🤫 "Let me think about that"
🤫 "My brain just glitched"

ADHDers I talk to use these every day.

So what if it showed how much you’ve been carrying?

Your mask slipping = your brain craving air.

Send to someone who needs to hear this 🚀

With ADHD, it’s never just "enough".

Why? You keep moving the goal post.

Be honest, does this feel like you?

Achieves goal → "Not enough"

Raises bar → "Still not enough"

Pushes hard → "Never enough"

Burns out → "I'm not enough" 😿

For ADHDers, "enough" doesn't exist without a definition.

🧠 dopamine lack means you get relief at best
🧠 comparison trap says everyone’s ahead
🧠 RSD means feedback is heartbreak

Redefining success starts with:

💜 Clarity
💜 Direction
💜 Acceptance

One way to start today is simply ask:

• "What’s my capacity today?"
• "What would 80% look like?" 
• "Will this matter next week?"

And set effort accordingly.

Define your finish line.

Or burnout will draw it for you.

Late-identified ADHD = you achieved against odds.

(now imagine what you can do with support)

You built a life.

Despite no diagnosis.

Despite no community.

Despite no understanding.

And that's proof that you can.

Now add this:
→ focus on goals and not struggles
→ a coach in your corner
→ self-compassion

What would you dare reach for with actual support?

Late-identified ADHD = expert-level player finally gets a controller.